It doesn’t matter if you are just out of the closet or have been around the dating scene for years, meeting new people is hard. In the gay community it seems that confidence is the most attractive feature you can have. Not everyone oozes confidence and has healthy self-esteem so that can make finding a date even harder. Don’t worry we are here to help. Here is some help to get you started dating in the gay community.
Fake it Until it is Real
We are talking about confidence here. Everybody is attracted to a confident man regardless of what they look like. The hard part is already done, you found the confidence to come out of the closet so make yourself believe that you can do anything. Walk into your date with your head held high and like you own the place. Keep a positive attitude and pretty soon you will feel the confidence you are trying to exude. Here are some more tips to help you with your confidence.
Don’t Trust Your ‘Gay’dar
You may think that you have the ability to pick the one gay man out of a crowd of thousands but not everyone shares that ability. Approaching someone when you aren’t sure if they even play on your side of the fence can be terrifying, so take small steps first. Try to meet someone who is openly gay first, that can be at a gay bar or a gay dating website or even a gay social club. You don’t always have to date everyone you meet but it is a good way to get out and make new friends in the gay community.
You Don’t Have to Live up to Stereotypes
There is a stereotype that gay men are sexually promiscuous, while that is true for some people that is also true in the straight community. Don’t feel pressured to live up to that stereotype, sex is personal and you can have as much or as little of it as you are comfortable with. You also need to be cautious, particularly if you are just coming out of the closet. Falling in love with the first person that you have sex with can end in heartbreak, guard your emotional health as much as your physical health.
Dating gets easier with practice, get out there and meet new people, you never know you could meet your Mr Right.